Journaling & 2026 Health Goals

Journaling used to scare me. I never wanted to be left alone with my thoughts, because that’s when the pain would creep in and take over. I still don’t love being alone with my thoughts, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that journaling can be a healthy and productive way to get to know yourself and to start writing the future you want into existence.

Now that I’m entering my twenty-fifth year, and my brain is finally finishing up its development, I can actually picture a future for myself. That’s something I wasn’t able to do before. This shift, along with a new sense of optimism, has led me to create goals for myself for pretty much the first time ever.

Most of those goals are health-related, as I continue working to address my heart conditions, chest pain, and ultimately get my quality of life back. I’m sharing them here as a form of accountability, but also in the hope that they might offer some motivation to others in a similar place.

Living with chronic illness and pain for nearly half my life has taught me that my body has limits, and that things don’t always go the way I plan. That’s made goal-setting especially difficult for me. But this year, I want to use journaling as a way to manifest the future I want for myself, starting with setting attainable goals and giving myself grace as I work toward them.

You’ll notice there isn’t anything too extreme on this list, but these are all things I’ve wanted for myself for years. And for the first time, the puzzle pieces are finally coming together in a way that makes me believe they’re actually possible this year.

Without further ado, here are my 2026 health goals:

1. Have my night in the sleep lab, get my CPAP machine to treat my sleep apnea, and get my sleep issues figured out once and for all.
2. Have my third catheter ablation surgery for my atrial fibrillation heart arrhythmia, and take the time to fully heal from that surgery,
3. Once that is completed, I want to get off all the medications I'm on for my heart. They make me lethargic and have no energy, and that's a feeling I don't want to experience anymore.
4. Once my sleep is figured out and I'm recovered from my surgery, I want to get back to moving my body and working out to the best of my ability. Nothing too crazy, but certainly a step up from doing nothing. 
5. Meet with a clinical dietitian who specializes in an anti-inflammatory diet and start consistently cooking healthy meals for myself.
6. Be better about saying no when I don't want to do something.
7. Don't feel guilty for listening to my body.
8. Only put work into relationships that fulfill me. I only have so much energy to give.
9. Heel stretches daily for my plantar fasciitis.

Some non-health-related goals:

1. Finish grad school and get my master's degree! 
2. Read at least 70 books.
3. Start writing on my blog again regularly! 
4. Go to Ireland.
5. No buying clothes or shoes unless absolutely necessary. 
6. Pay off most of my student loans. 

I got a cute new journal to start the year and filled it with all my goals. Years ago, some friends and I attended a talk in college where the speaker, a successful businesswoman, talked about the power of writing things down if you want them to come true. That idea has stuck with me ever since.

I’ve seen it work for the smaller things in my life, but I’ve always wondered about the bigger ones. So this year, I’m really testing that theory. I’m writing down everything I want, without overthinking it. I even started a list of five-year goals that I plan to keep adding to as they grow and change.

Whether it all comes to fruition or not, I know I’m doing everything I can to make 2026 the year I get my quality of life back. And if you’re feeling stuck or hopeful or somewhere in between, I encourage you to join me in journaling and creating the best future we can for ourselves.

Me and my trusty journal!

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How to Support a Loved One with Chronic Illness

The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time of coming together and spending time with loved ones. But for people with chronic illness, there are often barriers to that wanted uninterrupted family time in the form of pain, exhaustion, and limited energy. 

When you live with chronic illness, your body doesn't just pause the pain because it's Christmastime. We never get time off from our symptoms even though that very wish is at the top of our Christmas lists every year. Fatigue doesn't disappear because we have family gatherings to attend. In fact, our symptoms often get worse because there is more pressure to be "on" and to push through the pain and exhaustion. 

This is made even harder by the invisibility of our symptoms. From the outside, we may look fine, but that's an act we've learned to perfect over the years to power through. We may even make it through the entire event which is a win. But what the people around us don't see is the extra rest it took prior to the event and the recovery time afterword, the symptoms we're managing quietly and the mental energy it takes to keep the mask plastered on. 

Support during the holidays doesn’t have to be big or dramatic. In fact, the most meaningful support is often small, thoughtful, and rooted in understanding. If someone in your life lives with chronic illness, here are ways you can show up for them; not just during the holidays, but year-round.

Ways to Support Someone With Chronic Illness

• Believe them: If someone tells you they’re tired, in pain, or not feeling well, take them at their word. They are the expert on their body. They don’t need to justify it.

• Release expectations: Let go of how you think the holidays should look. Your loved one may not be able to attend every event, stay as long, or participate the way they used to and that’s okay.

• Ask what support looks like for them: Support isn't the same for everyone. A simple “How can I best support you right now?” can mean everything.

• Be flexible with plans: Symptoms can change quickly. Last-minute cancellations are not personal; they’re often necessary. Respond with kindness, not guilt.

• Offer specific help: Instead of “Let me know if you need anything,” try “Can I bring food?” or “Would it help if I picked that up for you?” These responses are still very kind, but specific offers are easier to accept.

• Don’t minimize their experience: Avoid phrases like “At least it’s not worse” or “Have you tried just resting?” Chronic illness isn’t solved by positivity or simple fixes.

• Understand that energy is limited: Many people with chronic illness operate on a finite energy system. If they choose to spend energy with you, that often means they’re sacrificing something else.

• Check in after events, not just before: Recovery can be harder than the event itself. A message like “Thinking of you today” after a gathering can be incredibly validating.

• Respect boundaries without pushing back: If someone says no, accept it. No explanations required.

• Keep showing up: Chronic illness doesn’t have an end date. Continued support, even when it’s not “new” anymore, matters deeply.

Wishing you all a happy and healthy holiday season and I'm looking forward to posting on here regularly in 2026! 

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It's Been a Hard Month...

Well, Endometriosis Awareness Month hasn't been treating me very kindly. I feel like whenever I start to get better, something else happens. I want to give a health update, but I want to preface this by saying that I'm not looking for pity in any way. I just want to share the reality of living with a chronic illness and all the complications that come with it. 

My month began with my bladder beginning to leak, and experiencing urinary urgency which are two things I have never experienced before. It's a really crazy feeling when you have no control over what your body does. It's honestly kind of scary at the same time because you never know what to expect. It made me feel like I was a little kid who hasn't been potty trained yet. I am happy to report that those instances have gotten better recently which is a big relief. They still happen, just not as often. Along with this, I am experiencing bladder pain and some endometriosis pain as well. This is weird because I thought I solved the problem of bladder pain through pelvic floor physical therapy, but maybe I just need to try some different exercises. 

The second issue I've been dealing with this month has been happening on and off for a while and I've talked about it on my Instagram account a little bit. I keep experiencing intense nausea and some upper abdominal pain after everything I eat. It tends to be worse while I'm at school because let's be honest, this food is just not the best, to put it nicely. It got to the point earlier this week that I was afraid to leave my room in fear that I would get sick. I decided enough was enough and went to urgent care this past Tuesday to hopefully get the problem solved. From the moment I walked in, I felt dismissed by everyone working there. This is unfortunately a feeling that I, and many other young women, feel when trying to advocate for ourselves in a medical setting and I am so sick of it. I explained my symptoms and both the nurse and doctor made me feel bad for not coming in sooner. I tried to explain to them that I have a chronic illness, so these symptoms were not necessarily alarming to me as I have experienced much worse. The symptoms were more of an annoyance at this point. They didn't really understand this. I wanted to tell them if I went to the doctor every time I had an issue, I would spend my whole life there. 

The doctor said she thinks I have gastritis and began treating me for that. I also had blood work done and an x-ray taken. The blood work thankfully came back fine, but the x-ray showed that I was pretty constipated. I had a feeling that this would be the case as I've been struggling with bowel movements for a while. However, this could offer an explanation for my bladder leakage and urinary urgency as well. When one has a full bowel, it pushes up against their bladder which can cause more frequent urination, urgency, and leaking. I'm hoping that this is the case for me and I that don't have any other issues with my bladder. The doctor prescribed me a medication to help with gastritis that's hopefully supposed to calm down the acid in my stomach. Although, last night, I noticed I was developing a rash on my legs and feet. I looked up the side effects of the new medication and of course, a rash was one of them. I'm hoping it goes away on its own soon, but if not I'll have to call the doctor and let her know. 

Along with that medication, she had me buy magnesium citrate at the store which is a drink that clears you all out when you're constipated. I drank it the next day and immediately started to feel so nauseous. I tried to focus on my work for my internship, but I couldn't. Then, before I knew it, I was getting sick into my trashcan. I guess the medicine worked for the wrong end... I felt much better afterward though! The magnesium citrate did mostly help to do what it was supposed to, but I think I'm still constipated because I threw most of it up. I take MiraLax and fiber gummies every day, but it is rare I find relief from that, so all suggestions are welcome. 

The third part of my week from hell has to do with some heart problems I've been having. Starting on Monday, my heart started beating pretty irregularly. I have never experienced this before, so it freaked me out a little bit, but I wasn't too concerned yet. However, on Tuesday, my heart started racing up to 200+ beats per minute. This would last about 30 to 60 seconds at a time, then stop for a minute before starting up again. When it happens, it completely knocks the air out of me so it is difficult to breathe. It also makes my chest and face tighten, turn red, and start to sweat. Now I was/am really scared. Many people might chalk it up to stress, but I don't feel mentally/emotionally stressed or anxious at all. However, maybe my body is under physical stress when having all these medical issues on top of each other so my heart is working overtime. I'm really hoping it's something simple like that and nothing worse. This is still happening, so I have a doctor's appointment with my primary care doctor on Tuesday, so hopefully, nothing bad happens before then. I had mentioned this happening to the urgent care nurse earlier this week, and she very rudely told me that is something they can't help with and I need to be seeing a cardiologist. 

Needless to say, it has been a hard week and month in general. My body is falling apart all over the place and I feel so out of control because I can't do much to help it. Please send any prayers and good thoughts my way so that I can get these issues figured out soon and I can enjoy the rest of my semester. I hope you are all doing well. It's a scary world out there, so please stay safe and know that I am sending prayers/good thoughts your way as well! 

Looking a lot better here than I feel on the inside...😂

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MY SIX YEAR ENDOVERSARY

 I say this every year, but I can't believe today marks six years since I was diagnosed with endometriosis! It feels like yesterday, but a lifetime ago at the same time. I was getting a little teary-eyed this morning thinking about how far I've come during these last six years. I went from being in debilitating pain and not being able to get out of bed as a 14-year-old freshman in high school to a 20-year-old college junior who is chasing her dreams. My 14-year-old self pre-diagnosis didn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I thought that I would always be in intense pain because no medical professional would believe my pain. Fast forward to the present day, I am still singing, have a crazy busy schedule with all my clubs and activities, and I'm doing an internship full-time that I love. I have found a way to manage my pain the best I can through a combination of medication and pelvic floor physical therapy. A lot of people in the chronic illness world like to push either just medication or just holistic forms of treatment, but I believe every single body is different. It's often a combination of the two that work together to help people. 

For years I was only using medication to manage my pain which has been so helpful, but re-starting pelvic floor physical therapy has made all the difference for me. I would say this past year has been the best for me pain-wise. My bad days are far less frequent and I have become very good at pinpointing what is causing my pain and making the proper changes to fix it. Each year I try to learn more and more about my body and why it works the way it does. Able-bodied people don't have to worry about every piece of food they put in their body, every step they take so they don't throw their body out of alignment, or worry about having to cancel plans because they're in so much pain. And yes, that is very frustrating at points, but I'm willing to do all those things to help my body be the best it can be. 

I wanted to share a little update on my health recently. I've been a little frustrated because I have been dealing with incontinence over the last week or so which is something I've never experienced before. It's hard having no control over what your body does, but I have faith that this is just a phase and my body will get back to its normal soon. Other than that, my endo pain hasn't been around as much which is so nice. I'm still dealing with my injured tailbone, but the pain is so much better than it was before. I even met a new friend with endometriosis here at school and we've started talking! It's so nice to have someone who knows exactly what I'm going through in my everyday life!

I'm so proud of myself and what my body has been able to do for me over the last six years. There are many times that I get angry at my body because I feel like it's failing me, but I try to remind myself that it is first and foremost my home, it has stuck with me for twenty years, and it's not going anywhere any time soon. Thank you for coming on this journey with me over the last six years and I look forward to sharing more of my journey with you as time goes on! 

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Prioritizing Friends in College (while having a chronic illness)

 I'm happy to report to you that since the last time we spoke, I am doing much better! I have been back on the daily grind of doing my internship, leading my clubs, singing, and spending time with friends. As my college experience is wrapping up shortly (I have less than 3 semesters left, so crazy!), I have made sure I am prioritizing my friendships here more than I ever have. Whether it's sacrificing a few hours of sleep or simply doing homework silently, but in the presence of each other, it's so important to create those bonds. These are the people that always support me when I'm not feeling well and have fun with me when I am. They often have to drag me out of my bed, but I'm always happy they do. Some of my friends and I are even going on a trip in a few weeks which is something I never would have thought of doing a few years ago when my pain was really bad. I want to share some of the things I try to remind myself of when I'm feeling guilty about having fun (even though it's ALWAYS okay to have fun:)

1. It's okay to lose a few hours of sleep if you're busy having fun and making memories with your friends!
2. I may not be feeling my best right now, but I know I'll be having fun once I'm with my friends!
3. College is the time in your life to be prioritizing friendships before you're all off in different places!
4. It's okay to count spending time together as just being in the same room- you don't need to always be doing something crazy and high energy!
5. It's OKAY to say yes more to things that aren't school and work-related!!!!!! (I'm definitely still learning this one)

All of these things are easier said than done and it's taken me three years of college to finally let myself have fun. I don't know if it's just me, but I always feel guilty about doing fun things if it's not productive. However, hanging out with your friends is productive and an amazing use of your time because you'll have those bonds and memories to last a lifetime! 

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I'M IMMUNOCOMPROMISED AND GOT COVID

    After only one week back at college for the spring semester, I tested positive for covid after dodging it for almost two years. This time last week was pretty scary. I learned I was a close contact last Saturday after simply watching a movie in my friend's dorm room. I didn't think much of it because throughout the night I wasn't physically close to this person at all. It wasn't until the following day I started to panic a little bit. So, I drove to CVS and picked up as many rapid tests as I could find, and took one right away. It was negative. A sigh of relief washed over me. However, about thirty minutes later, one of my closest friends tested positive and I got scared. I had been with this friend every day over that last week, so there was no way I avoided the virus this time. After finding out my friend tested positive and making sure they were okay, I sat at church praying that I didn't have covid. Yes, I knew I would probably be fine because I am fully vaccinated and boosted as well as constantly taking every precaution to protect myself, but there is still an unknown. I had to leave choir practice because I was on the verge of a panic attack. Luckily, another friend followed me out and attempted to calm me down. With his help, I started to come to terms with the fact that I could possibly have covid. 

    This may seem a bit dramatic to you, but this is the reality of being immunocompromised during a pandemic. Because of my endometriosis and asthma, my immune system and lungs are not that of a perfectly healthy person. I didn't know how my body was going to react to this new attack. The very first thing I did the following morning was go right to my school's testing center and got a PCR test. From then on, the rest of the day was a waiting game. I kept myself busy by doing my internship and mentally preparing myself for the news I didn't want to hear. Throughout the day, I started developing cold symptoms. This is not completely abnormal for me as I have bad allergies and more often than not have a stuffy nose and cough. However, this was not a good sign since I was a close contact with two different people in the span of twenty-four hours. I decided to attend my class on zoom that night because at this point, I had full-fledged symptoms and I was not feeling good. Around 9pm that night, my friends who had also tested in the morning started getting their negative test results back. I waited and waited but never received mine. I finally went to bed around 11pm with the gut feeling that I had tested positive. I woke up several times during the night and checked my phone hoping to see an email about testing negative, but that never came. Around 8am the next morning, I received the dreaded email: "the results for your covid-19 test have come back positive."

    I had little reaction at this point because 1) I was still half asleep and 2) I had prepped myself for this news. I just knew I needed to pack up my things and go home. I really wasn't feeling well at this point, so my brain wasn't working at top speed. I shoved a bunch of things into a bag and went to my car- double-masked the whole way. I knew I had to be forgetting something, but I went through the mental checklist of things most important to me: medicine and sound machine, check! Once I got in my car, I saw the negative rapid test I had taken the night before sitting there and mocking me. I hadn't eaten anything at this point and was still pretty tired, so I was attempting to hype myself up for the 1.5-hour drive home. Once I got some food in my system and my podcast playing, I was good to go. Luckily, I made it home with no problems. 

    When I arrived at my house, I was greeted with N95 masks and surgical gloves on the counter. I put a mask on and went straight down to my room where I've been ever since. At that point, I was having bad cold symptoms- stuffy nose, congestion, cough, dry throat- as well as trouble breathing and bad fatigue. I quickly took a shower while the rest of my family was at school and work, then immediately went to sleep. The first day was a little rough being by myself because I was so used to being super social with all my friends at school, but I quickly got into a routine of prioritizing myself and making sure I was doing everything I could to get better quickly. Those initial cold symptoms lasted about three days. Now, I am just experiencing a stuffy nose and fatigue. However, this morning I woke up with extreme dizziness and almost wet the bed not being able to stand up to walk to the bathroom. Actually, writing this blog is the first time I've sat up in bed all day because the dizziness is still very much there.     

    This whole week I have been so thankful that I am fully vaccinated and boosted. I've had quite of bit of trouble with my breathing even with all my vaccines, so I'm glad I didn't get covid before vaccines were available. While I have felt pretty sick all week, I am also so thankful that my symptoms haven't been worse since that was a very real possibility with me being immunocompromised. I am on the mend now and hoping to be back at school soon. Please be mindful of your immunocompromised loved ones at this time because even if you aren't scared about getting covid, they probably are. So let's be kind and respectful toward everyone and do what we can to make everyone safe!

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End of Semester Update!

 I'm back everyone and I apologize for my absence this past semester! I think it has been a crazy time for most people, especially those who are back to school and work after being at home for so long. Since my college required COVID vaccines, masks indoors, and weekly tests, we were able to get mostly back to normal, which means I was very busy. I was taking some hard classes, I was a student leader in four different groups, and I continued my summer internship into the fall. I'm not complaining though, because like I've said before, I actually really enjoy being busy because it takes my mind off of my endometriosis and other health problems. Now that COVID is ramping up again with the new variant, I'm very happy to be safe at home, fully vaccinated, and boosted. 

A lot of exciting things happened for me this semester! The most exciting is that I was accepted into an internship program at my school that is going to allow me to intern full-time in Boston during the Spring semester for school credit rather than taking classes. I always wanted to do this internship program in Washington D.C. as I am a political science major, but when it came time to apply, I realized that I haven't had a normal year of college yet and I don't want to leave campus for a whole semester. The Boston program allows me to live on campus and still participate in all my extracurricular activities while getting to commute into Boston during the day and get that real-world experience. After I was accepted into that program, I had to apply for internships. This process takes a lot of time from searching to applying to interviewing. I was lucky enough to get a few offers and I accepted an internship that I'm super excited about and I think is going to give me the clarity I need moving forward with my career. 

I did work full-time during the summer, but that work was mostly remote. Commuting into a big city every day is going to be a whole new experience and I will definitely share my experience here will all of you. I am definitely nervous about how this internship is going to affect my endometriosis pain. Anxious nerves and stress often cause flare-ups of my pain. Over the summer if that happened, I could just take a quick break to lay in my bed, however, I won't be able to do that this time around. Although don't get me wrong, I am very happy and grateful that this experience will be in-person after experiencing the pandemic for almost two years. I'm sure a lot of you reading this have full-time and in-person jobs, so I'm very curious, how do you handle your pain? 

I have been lucky this semester that my endometriosis pain has been mostly manageable! I had a few flare-ups here and there, but they didn't last very long. The combination of medication and pelvic floor physical therapy has really worked for me and I'm so thankful! A lot of chronically ill people are strong proponents of either full-on western medicine or other less common routes. I think it's different for every person because each body is different, but I've experienced the best results when both methods are combined. What works the best for you? What I've still been struggling the most with is my tailbone pain. It's been about 1.5 years since it's started, but I'm happy to report it is getting better with the help of pelvic floor physical therapy! Hopefully being able to go to PT consistently over the break will be the push my tailbone needs to fully heal. 

I feel like I've been rambling a lot, so I'm going to end this post here. Now that I'm going to be on winter break for about a month, I'm going to be posting on here more and I've been posting on my Instagram pretty frequently (@endoisnottheendblog). I hope you all are happy and healthy and are enjoying the holiday season with loved ones!

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