Things You Should NEVER Say to Someone with Endo

 Sometimes it's hard to know what to say to someone struggling with a chronic illness, so today I'm going to give you some insight into what NOT to say to someone with endometriosis. 

1. Anything related to pregnancy: You never know what someone might be struggling with or if they even want kids, so it's best to avoid the subject unless they bring it up. 
2. You don't look sick: People with invisible illnesses often have to hide what they're feeling, so just because we don't look sick, doesn't mean we're not. 
3. Just get a hysterectomy: A hysterectomy, or removing the uterus, is actually not a cure for endometriosis. 
4. Shouldn't you be cured since you got surgery?: While the surgery can make us feel a lot better, there is still no cure.
5. At least it's not [insert more severe illness here]: Even though there are diseases worse than endo, you do not want to invalidate or lessen what anyone is feeling. 
6. Just take Advil: Endo pain is often a lot worse than what Advil can fix and saying this can once again invalidate how we are feeling. 
7. I get bad period cramps too: Endometriosis is a lot more than bad period cramps. It is a whole-body disease that causes excruciating pain throughout the entire month. 
8. Someone I know tried this and now they are cured: Once again, there is no cure for endo so bringing up stuff like this is not helpful at all. 
9. Have you tried this diet?: While some diets can be helpful for some people, they are not helpful for everybody. Whenever I talk about the diets I try to stick to, I try to make it clear that this is what has worked for me and I know that it won't work for everyone. 
10. Isn't period pain normal?: While light period cramping is normal, excruciating pain during your period and pain throughout the entire month is not normal. One of the major reasons why it takes people so long to get diagnosed with endo is because we are taught that really bad period cramping is normal when in reality, it's not. 

I hope this post was able to give you some insight into how to talk to someone with endometriosis about their illness. If you think something you say could be taken the wrong way in any situation, it's best not to say it.